I love watching Ted Talks, everything from bamboo houses to insight into amazing art to thought provoking topics.
When I was young, I thought I’d have everything figured out by now. Now? I’m still a work in progress. Always learning, always changing, always exploring who I am, finding my path and those special things inside of me.
Sometimes I feel stuck. Sometimes it feels like I should hang an “out of order” sign around my neck. Sometimes I feel alone or unmotivated.
THAT is my mind’s message saying
“YO! IT’S TIME TO SHAKE THINGS UP!”
I always think body language is how I come across to others. I’ve never thought about how it came across to me. When I’m completely absorbed in something, I’m all kinds of spread out, moving, arms waving (even if no one can see me). Very often I’m surrounded by notes, and books, and notepads. Sometimes I’ve even got my legs kicked up, keyboard balanced on my lap. I’m OWNING IT, and I’m in the zone.
Not always though. Sometimes I’m flustered and nervous. I can hear it in my voice. My muscles are tense as I draw my shoulders in. I say thank you 50 times, and I apologize 100. I’m not confident and I’m not focused where I need to be.
WHY? Fear. of trying something new. of failing. of not being prepared. of being judged and found lacking.
What sucks about society is that others can pound this feeling into us. That we’re not good enough. That it will never happen. That we can’t do it. If I had a dollar for every time I’ve heard “You’ll never…..”. For every doubtful look. Deflating comment. Even worse? the walls put in place by others to set us up for failure. What happens? WE BELIEVE IT. I can feel myself drawing inward, shoulders hunched. Not inspired. A ghost. How I stand, my body language, effects me too.
The Ted Talk below was enlightening. My favorite parts? Tiny tweaks = big changes and don’t fake it until you make it, fake it until you become it. Now go stand like superwoman for two minutes (yes – guys too!). Raise your hands in the air in pride! You GOT this! Go be you, no apologies!
My word of the day – POWERFUL!